I am so sick of well meaning friends, family and even strangers brushing off L’s delays and saying “He’ll be fine”. I hear this constantly from people when I first tell them about L. I know in their heads they think it will make me feel better, but it just angers me! I feel like it belittles what we are going through, and that it is such a trite response. The truth of the matter is that even with all of his wonderful abilities L is not fine, he is not developing normally, and although progress is being made it is a slow process.
When we are cocooned at home it is easy to forget but as soon as we go on a playdate, or I see other children L’s age the differences are very apparent. Children he has grown up with so far are having whole conversations with their parents, are potty trained, are singing songs and pointing things out, are doing all sorts of things that L is not able to do yet. L is one of the loves of my life, and is wonderful in so many ways, but he is not fine so I wish that everyone would stop pretending that he is just to be nice. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard “he’ll be fine, just look at so and so, he didn’t talk until he was 4 and look at him now, he’s fine”, and I have to bite my tongue and smile and nod but inside I just want them to truly understand and empathize with us…it’s ok to notice his delays and to talk about it. I won’t take offence I promise.