So L is now 3 and a half years old, and still not potty trained. I know that a lot of this has to do with his autism, but he is scheduled to start kindergarten in September and I’m hoping that this will be the summer of potty training! I have worked in daycares for the last 12 years and have potty trained many a child. You would therefore think that training my own child would be a cinch, but unfortunately it is not turning out that way. We have reached a turning point in that L is finally showing some interest in the toilet. He asks us when we go, “Mommy you going pee on the toilet?”, and he recognizes that we don’t wear diapers. He has also started to ask to go on the toilet himself sometimes.
My struggle is that that is all he will do. Sit on the toilet. For like 10 seconds. Not really a recipe for successful potty training. I try to get him to sit longer, because nothing is going to happen in 10 seconds, but he absolutely refuses and will often begin to cry. Which stresses both him and I out and doesn’t lead to any advances.
We are kind of at a standstill and I’m not sure which direction to take from here. This weekend we tried training underpants for the first time, but he went pee in them and didn’t appear to notice, or at least didn’t tell his dad or me. I just feel like this is going to be a very long process, and I’m worried about the other children in his new kindergarten class making fun of him for it. The school board has assured me that he doesn’t need to be potty trained to start school and that somebody will change him if needed. This doesn’t really make me feel better though, and our ultimate goal is for L to be trained (at least pee) by September.
So my question to all parents of autistic (and non-autistic) children out there is: how did you potty train your child? Was it a huge struggle? How long did it take? Are there any great strategies that worked for you that you would be willing to share? Wish us luck, and I hope to hear from some of you!